I am a man, please allow me to answer half of the questions from a male perspective. In the whole process of men&;s life, the attitude towards sex and love can be divided into the following three stages: stage 1: Sex is above love. This stage begins in adolescence, and normal people maintain an adolescence, and a few people can&;t leave evil influence for a lifetime. At this stage, people have a good face and are easy to go to the top. They can fight for a very small thing and try to die. During this period, people began to explore the world independently, think independently, have impulses, and set out to learn how to control their emotions. In the issue of sex and love, the result of immaturity of mind is that sex is far above love, which accounts for a disproportionate proportion in the whole ideological concept because it cannot be vented, resulting in the following ideological : complex (I can&;t accept women who have been played by others, even those who have held hands seriously). On the infeasibility of Platonic love (it is better to buy brothers if you can&;t find a wife (or girlfriend), Women are like clothes (which can&;t be ed, but can be ed by themselves). They choose the object blindly (it&;s th: &”;courted like a dog at the beginning, but now it&;s ugly at the end of the day&”;, which is one of the reasons why people always complain about &”;why my boyfriend is getting colder and colder&”;). Ten people are beheaded, and hundreds of people are beheaded (this is the honorary certificate of the world, &”;All my life&”; (but when faced with a loveless object who can cheat you with words like &”;Love you for 10,000 years&”; and &”;Be good to you all my life&”;, a frivolous person can make a promise) &”;No repetition&”; theory (a suite in the Third Ring Road costs 500w, and I can a woman for 27 years without repetition, or a woman like you can stand in a row for 2,000 yuan. For an unwise person, this psychological feature can continue from adolescence, and the more you get older, the greater the lethality and destructiveness to harmony. This is also the reason why events such as &”;cheating&”; and &”;cheating&”; emerge one after another in order to live and live in the current news consultation. After the sexual passion retreats, there is no love to continue. Stage 2: Sex and love complement each other. People in this stage are much more rational than in the previous stage, knowing that sex is not everything in love, but love without sex is empty and tasteless, and they will be a little cautious in choosing a spouse. In this &”;face-oriented&”; world, gene elimination is gradually taking place (please forgive me for being so blunt …), and &”;short and poor&”; or &”;black and poor and ugly&”; have limitations in choosing objects (sin and sin …). When choosing love, there will be an appropriate proportion of additive factors. For example, if love develops into in-depth contact and suddenly finds that the user experience is not good, then physical discomfort will inevitably affect the stability of love; On the contrary, some comrades who are particularly capable in this field can make use of this to make up for other deficienci《道德情感论》 that : is rare in human society.The act of pleasing both yourself and others. It can be seen. People who hold such views account for a large proportion, but as an animal, sex always ends. Men, there will always be a day when they can&;t get hard. In the process, the human body will secrete a kind of oxytocin, which is not only used for giving birth, but also can trigger and urge couples to hug each other before, during and after, just like other stimulating hormones, which is why you can have a feeling of unity of body and spirit when you are with an object you like and love. A large amount of oxytocin in the body creates this feeling of attachment to strengthen the combination of love. Theoretically speaking, the more you do, the more oxytocin is secreted, and the deeper the combination between two people. When the passion of sex recedes, this change from love to affection enables two people to be dependent on each other until they are old. This is the physiological support that sex and love complement each other. You can often see couples who want to love each other until they are old, but you should never see a couple who will continue to love each other every day when they are old. Therefore, in the later stage, the complementary relationship between sex and love has changed. Love begins with passion and lasts for family. However, not every couple can develop this sense of attachment in the long run, so it is not uncommon to hear stories and news like &”;a 40-year-old man looking for a small three bags&”;. This is the result of a man&;s ability to obtain more sexual resources without love constraints. Stage 3: Sex is subordinate to love. This kind of people can be divided into two types, one is passive (passive) and the other is, of course, active (active). The latter who can enter this stage are often extremely cautious. They don&;t believe that they will be controlled by some physiological hormones to keep the love generated by &”;sex&”; fresh. People who hold this view can already control the sexual primitive impulse very well, and they are very careful in choosing the object, considering more the woman&;s inner mind, and the outside only plays an auxiliary role (more accurately, it is a pre-selection method). If you don&;t reach a tacit understanding of love in your heart, no matter how beautiful this possible object is, it will never develop with it easily. Once you fall in love with excellent luck, it is a much-told story. Love to the depths is a kind of no regrets. For this model of love, it is only an inevitable product of love, pleasing each other and giving each other happiness. Many material conditions will bow their heads in the face of true love, and the house and car are not a problem. It doesn&;t matter how debauched and unbearable the past and background of both sides are, as long as they can concentrate on this feeling from the moment they want to love. It is true that the power that love gives people is terrible. That&;s probably what Ye Zhi meant when he said, &”;Only one person loves your pilgrim&;s soul&”;. Under the deep love, big stallion, who has passed through thousands of flowers, can see her favorite girl in her dream, shaking all over because of holding her hand. This experience is not comparable to that one and a half hours after being dumped … Love to the depths can make a person with a very delicate mind miss across thousands of miles, and stick to what he loves in his heart at the ends of the earth, impartial and supercilious. In the meantime,One contradiction is that love is the mutual choice of two people. If this view develops into spiritual cleanliness, and self-cultivation is not enough for the object of love to love themselves, the end is likely to be wandering in the abyss of unrequited love for loved one, and it is too bad to die alone … Of course, generally speaking, there are very few cases of loneliness, and people will always precipitate and enrich themselves with the passage of time, thus enhancing their charm (if they are stupid enough to cultivate themselves). After the baptism of time, innate factors, such as appearance, figure and wealth of parents&; family, gradually decrease, while acquired self-cultivation accounts for an increasing proportion. This is also why uncles (note that they are not masters, and only successful men can be called uncles in this society) are always in the position of sellers&; market, but how many little girls are attracted by high-quality single uncles? After the contradiction was resolved, this is another story. Sex and love, a short time, a long time; A fiery, a warm; One belongs to the physiological category and the other belongs to the psychological category; The more you experience the world, the more valuable your spirit is. After all, all external things serve the mind, and so does sex.