Menstruation and his uncle have a son and a daughter, and his cousin got married a few years earlier than his cousin. menstruation went to help his cousin take care of the children for two years, but later, because he had a quarrel with his wife, he proposed to go back to his hometown. His wife said that menstruation could not help them with their children, but he had to give them at least 3,000 yuan a month. Menstruation said that she would rather give them 3,000 yuan a month than continue to help them with their children. My uncle is a primary school teacher with a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand yuan. After consulting with his uncle, menstruation decided to give three thousand yuan to his cousin and his wife every month, and then menstruation went back to his hometown. Menstruation hasn&;t been at home for two years, and her cousin asked her to help with the children. Cousin&;s situation is quite special. She has no mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law died of illness several years ago, and her father-in-law later married another one. They have a very good relationship, and they are just like honey. Cousin&;s stepmother doesn&;t want to help them take care of their children. After all, she is not her own mother, and they can&;t help it. And my cousin is a teacher, and she is unwilling to quit her job to take care of the children full-time, so in the end she can only turn to me, menstruation. Menstruation is also a cousin who is distressed. On the other hand, she thinks that there are fewer contradictions with her daughter and son-in-law, so she went to her cousin&;s house. Cousin and brother-in-law are very respectful and kind to menstruation, but slowly, menstruation feels a little unwilling. Why not be reconciled? Because menstruation is not only responsible for taking care of the children, but also for the basic living expenses of her cousin&;s family of three. Usually, menstruation spends money on buying vegetables and fruits, and sometimes even menstruation pays the property fees. There is no meat and eggs in the refrigerator. My cousin and brother-in-law never take the initiative to buy them, but they are all waiting for menstruation to buy them. Sometimes, before menstruation goes back to her hometown on weekends, she sees that there are no eggs in the refrigerator, and she will deliberately remind her cousin that there are no eggs at home. Cousin promised her to go back to the supermarket to buy, but when menstruation came back from his hometown, there was no more than one egg in the refrigerator, not even a little food. When menstruation came back, she saw the empty refrigerator and asked her cousin how they ate at home for two days on weekends. My cousin always said innocently that they took their children out to play, so they ate dinner from outside, but they didn&;t eat a meal at home for two days on weekends. Sometimes before menstruation left, there were four or five eggs and some vegetables left in the refrigerator. When she returned from her hometown on Sunday afternoon, the refrigerator was still empty. Menstruation asked her cousin how she didn&;t know to buy some more eggs and vegetables after eating them. She said with a puzzled face that she had forgotten them. Menstruation was furious. Menstruation&;s money is given by her uncle. Every time menstruation goes back to her cousin&;s home from her hometown, her uncle will give her some money with her, but she wants to keep it for a rainy day, not to buy food for her cousin&;s home. After menstruation spent all his money, he was embarrassed to ask his cousin for it, so he had to ask his uncle for it again. Time and again, my uncle had an opinion and asked menstruation what all the money was used for. menstruation said that it was spent on my cousin&;s family. My uncle was very angry and said: We are the children&;s grandmothers, grandfathers, not grandparents, even the children&;s grandparents, we are willing to help them take care of their children.The classics are very good, and there is no reason to care about their eating and drinking Lazarus. Menstruation said: Now it is the same for the elderly to help their children to take care of their children. They not only have to give people money, but also have to pay money. It&;s not just our family. Isn&;t it the same when we took care of our son? Uncle said: it&;s all customary. In the future, I will give you a maximum of 1,000 yuan every month for your emergency. You are not allowed to buy food and rice for their family again. Let them buy their own food in the future. If you buy it, you can ask them for money. Menstruation promised her uncle on the surface, but let her open her mouth and ask her cousin for money to buy food. She was really a bit reticent. So she continued to spend her own money to buy food for her cousin and them, just because her uncle only gave her 1000 yuan a month, so menstruation didn&;t dare to buy meat and eggs at will. Most of them only buy some vegetables, occasionally buy some meat, fish and so on, but only buy a little at a time, and cook them for the children alone at noon. In the evening, after cousin and brother-in-law get off work, menstruation only cooks vegetables for them. Cousin and brother-in-law didn&;t say anything. They would eat whatever menstruation did, but on one occasion, menstruation fried some fish for the children at noon. When the children didn&;t finish eating, menstruation put the fish in the refrigerator for the children to eat the next day. In the evening, menstruation fried two vegetables as usual for his cousin and brother-in-law. Menstruation usually goes to bed at about nine o&;clock every night. As usual, she first played with her mobile phone in bed for a while, and when she was ready to sleep, she felt a little thirsty, so she got up and went to the living room to drink water. When she saw the light on in the kitchen, she thought she forgot to turn it off, so she wanted to turn it off. But as soon as she opened the kitchen door, she saw her cousin stealing the leftover fish from the children. Menstruation was distressed and angry, and asked her cousin what she was doing. Cousin is still a little embarrassed. She said: You have been cooking vegetarian dishes recently. My family hasn&;t eaten fish and meat for a long time, and I&;m a little greedy. Menstruation said: You can buy whatever you want at work at noon, but you are so greedy that you steal children&;s meals. Cousin said: The food in the canteen of our unit is terrible, and going out to eat once in a while doesn&;t satisfy our cravings. Menstruation was a little angry, so he spoke with no scruples. He said, If you want to eat meat, you can buy it. If you buy it, I can cook it for you. You don&;t buy anything, just wait for me to buy it. I will take care of your children and provide you with food and drink. Your father only gives me 1000 yuan a month now, so how can I afford to buy meat for you again? You can buy meat yourself if you want. Cousin said: then I will put some money in the drawer of our door cabinet in the future, and take it from the drawer when the money on you is gone. From then on, my cousin put some money into the drawer every once in a while, but not much at a time. She put 500 yuan at a time, and then put another 500 when the flowers are gone. Not long after this, my cousin stopped putting money in the drawer. She also said in front of menstruation, intentionally or unintentionally, that someone in their community is here to take care of their daughter, not only responsible for the family&;s eating and drinking Lazar, but also for the children&;s interest classes. Menstruation know cousin this is unwilling to take money. Menstruation is very sad. She has worked hard to raise her daughter so big. She has to help her cousin with her children when she is 50 or 60 years old, but her cousin is not at all.Know how to be grateful and just want to exploit parents. Menstruation felt that their education was a failure, and she also had the idea of not helping her cousin with the children. She said to her cousin: I&;m not well recently, and I&;m always dizzy. I feel groggy every day. Now that the child is older, it&;s easier to take care of it. Please ask your father-in-law to help take care of the child for a while. I have to go home and rest for a while. Cousin is actually very concerned about menstruation. As soon as she heard that menstruation was not feeling well and was very nervous, she was going to take menstruation to the hospital for examination. menstruation used the excuse that the cost of examination in a big city was too high. She wanted to go back to her hometown and take a rest for a while. Finally my cousin agreed. I don&;t know what my cousin told her brother-in-law. Anyway, my cousin&;s father-in-law finally came to my cousin&;s house with his new wife. It didn&;t take long for my cousin and brother-in-law to feel crazy. Cousin&;s father-in-law and new mother-in-law are only responsible for taking care of the children and don&;t cook three meals a day. They don&;t even cook, let alone go shopping. When menstruation was at her cousin&;s house, she got up early in the morning to cook for the family, but her father-in-law and new mother-in-law waited for her to do everything. If her cousin didn&;t get up to cook breakfast, her father-in-law and new mother-in-law took their children out to eat. At noon, I take my children to eat directly from the outside, and at night I wait for my cousin and brother-in-law to come back from work and cook for them. Housework is not done at all, and everything is waiting for my cousin to come back from work. The old couple will take their children around during the day or sleep at home. After the cousin got home, the old couple ignored the children at all. After dinner in the evening, they pushed the bowl and went out for ballroom dancing. Cousin&;s father-in-law is not at all polite to them. No matter what he buys, he directly reaches out and asks his cousin-in-law for money. He also keeps saying that they help his cousin and brother-in-law to take care of their children, and his cousin and brother-in-law have to be responsible for all their expenses. All these make my cousin angry enough. Since her father-in-law went to their house, she and her brother-in-law have been quarreling every now and then because of her in-laws. Brother-in-law is also very helpless. He urgently hopes that menstruation can get well soon, and then go to their home to help with the children. Without comparison, there would be no harm. Cousin and brother-in-law deeply realized the goodness of menstruation and felt guilty for their previous practices. Brother-in-law offered to give menstruation three thousand dollars a month as their living expenses after menstruation went to their home again. After listening to this, menstruation didn&;t immediately comment, but said that her health was not good and she had to stay in her hometown for a while. After a while, menstruation felt that his cousin and brother-in-law should be tortured almost, so he went back to his cousin&;s house. After he went, menstruation said to his cousin and brother-in-law, I don&;t need you to give me 3,000 yuan a month, just give me 2,000 yuan a month, which is not for me, but for buying food and meat for you. Remember: you should know how to be grateful, and you can&;t push your luck. No matter what kind of parents you have, you have to suffer. I have a clear conscience even if I don&;t help you with your children. You must have a conscience. This made my cousin and brother-in-law feel guilty. Later, at the beginning of each month, my cousin would transfer two thousand dollars to menstruation in time, sometimes a little more, so that menstruation could buy whatever he wanted.Point. Cousin and brother-in-law often buy clothes and skin care products for menstruation. In short, menstruation is relieved. Nowadays, many old people have to contribute and pay for helping their children, which has formed a very bad atmosphere, making more and more young people think that it is right for old people to help them with their children, and it is also right to take care of them to eat and drink Lazarus, while old people are more and more unwilling. Then, as the subject said, &”;What should I do if I go to my daughter&;s house to help look after the children, and the money I brought is spent and my daughter&;s son-in-law doesn&;t respond?&”; Combined with menstruation&;s experience, I think we can consider the following measures: 1. Use words and actions to imply daughters and sons-in-law. For example, like menstruation, I no longer buy meat and eggs for my family. When I buy food, I only buy some vegetables, or I don&;t even buy vegetables. When my daughter-in-law asks, she says that she has no money left. Most children will take the initiative to give some money to the elderly when they hear the old man say this. These children still have a conscience. Very few children will deliberately pretend that they don&;t understand what the old man is saying. This kind of children will inevitably make people feel a little chilling and will take further measures. 2. Ask your daughter and son-in-law for money directly. It&;s normal for me to ask my daughter for money directly when the money I brought with me is gone, and some children are too nervous to think of this problem if the old people don&;t say it, but for some old people, they may not be able to open this mouth. In their view, it is very embarrassing to ask your daughter&;s son-in-law for money. Even if you are embarrassed to ask your son-in-law for money, you can always ask your own daughter for money. Helping them take care of their children and spend money for them. What are you embarrassed to ask? Sometimes just saying it will bring the two sides closer. 3. Stop helping them with their children. If you tell your daughter and son-in-law that you have run out of money and ask them for money but they refuse, you can consider leaving directly and not helping them with their children. For this kind of children who only know how to oppress their parents, even if you give everything for them, they still won&;t know how to be grateful. So it&;s not worth it for you to stay at their house and help them with their children. You think that your efforts will win their respect and gratitude for you, and the result is only complaints and dissatisfaction. This kind of children, when you are old, are willing to give you a pension, so it is better to pay less to them. It is a duty for the elderly to help their children take care of their children, not their duty. They have no reason to take care of their children for their children, and they have to contract the living expenses of their children and their families. Children must be reasonable, be grateful, repay their parents well, and don&;t chill their parents&; hearts.