I am a southerner who married far away to the northeast. Because I am married to the Northeast, my relatives in the south who haven&;t seen much snow often watch me bask in the beautiful snow scene in my circle of friends in winter, and they are particularly yearning for everything in the Northeast. They always tell me that I will come to the Northeast for a trip when I have the opportunity, so let me treat it well. One winter a few years ago, my sister-in-law&;s cousin told me that the three of them were already on the flight from Wuhan to Harbin, and they were expected to arrive in Harbin in more than four hours. Let me prepare well. The three of them are going to play in Harbin for a week. At that time, I was shocked when I heard the news, because my cousin didn&;t tell me about the travel plan to Harbin beforehand, and she suddenly made me feel at a loss. At that time, I was still pregnant for 6 months. When my husband and in-laws found out, they also frowned, and they were somewhat dissatisfied with my family&;s coming without saying hello, and they were still rushing to be pregnant and inconvenient to move. However, as the host and the family, it is always not good for me to avoid seeing them for the first time, so I called my cousin to ask which flight she took, but there was no answer all the time, and I didn&;t reply to her message. My husband was so angry that he wanted to have an attack, but when he looked at me with a big belly, he held it down and said nothing. I can&;t help it. My husband and I can only guard the airport exit and watch the passengers coming out one by one. At that time, it was MINUS 20 degrees in Harbin. Although there was heating in the airport, I was pregnant and leaned against the glass fence at the exit. I waited for more than half an hour, but no one was there. No one answered my cousin&;s phone, and my cousin&;s phone was turned off. Later, after 20 minutes, my stomach felt a little sick, only to see my cousin&;s three leisurely come out of a restaurant in the airport. Looking at the three of them talking and laughing, I was really angry at that time. This short tour has not officially started, and this bad sign has already appeared. At that time, I really had a bad feeling in my heart. In the next few days, all kinds of wonderful things of my cousin&;s family made me angry now. After that, I summed up that all kinds of bad thoughts during the trip can really ruin your good mood in minutes, and it also proves that it is really unwise to travel with acquaintances and relatives. My cousin&;s family of three (two adults and a 4-year-old child) got off the plane at that time, and it was already past 8 pm. I told them that I could simply stay in a vacant small house in Harbin for this short trip and save some accommodation fees. But because this house is a second-hand house in an old-fashioned community in nangang district, there is no elevator, so you need to take stairs to go up and down the stairs. Who knows that my cousin and brother-in-law refused directly when they heard that there was no elevator, and said to me, &”;We have come all this way to experience life in the Northeast, and it is not convenient to live in your house. Let&;s stay in a hotel. I heard that Central Street is more beautiful. You are familiar with Harbin, so you can help it near Central Street.Let&;s book a hotel first, so we won&;t stay at your house if we stay at the hotel. &”;&”;That&;s ok, but hotels near Central Street are more expensive. You can actually stay in other places without affecting your play. &”;I kindly reminded them. &”;My son wants to see the night view of the Songhua River, so you can just book one near the Central Street for us. Don&;t worry, I&;ll transfer the money to you. We don&;t have reservation software on our mobile phones and we won&;t use it.&”; After cousin finished, she quickly changed her words to other places. After that, I chose them online for half a day, but the room prices were all over 270 a night. That night, I booked a hotel for my cousin&;s family and spent nearly 2000 yuan (directly booked a room for 7 days, 278 yuan a day, and the deposit was 100 yuan). In the next few days, my cousin didn&;t care that I had a big belly, so she dragged me to visit Harbin with them. At that time, it was also catching up with the winter. It was snowing in those two days, and there was snow on the road. My in-laws were very worried that I would go shopping with them with a big belly, for fear of accidents on the road. Later, my husband was afraid that I would be difficult to be a man, so he took a leave of absence from work and accompanied my cousin&;s family with me. My cousin&;s family said they would go to the world of ice and snow. I think she, a southerner, has never seen the real ice lantern exhibition, so it&;s ok to take her to see it. However, when I arrived at the scenic spot, I found that my cousin and my brother-in-law deliberately hid aside when they bought tickets, pretending to &”;look after the children and prevent them from running around&”; and kept silent about the cost, so I also paid for the tickets of more than 200 yuan per person. My husband asked me to keep all the receipts for all expenses and ask them for them together. In the next two days, my cousin&;s family paid a handful of money for all the scenic spots, attractions, food and drink. Because I was pregnant, some dangerous projects could not be played at all, and some food and drink could not be eaten. My husband was afraid that I was lonely and accompanied me. Therefore, my husband and I watched their family play happily all the time. And I have more and more expense invoices, which are getting thicker and thicker. At that time, when my cousin came, I took out 5,000 yuan in cash from my bank card. In this short three days, I spent less than 800 yuan. Cousin came to travel these days, my husband and I traveled together during the day, and we separated at night, and we went home, and my cousin and them went back to the hotel. In these days, my mother-in-law watched us play with each other all day. She went out early and came home late. She was also worried that my body would not eat well outside, which would affect the fetus in my stomach. So she suggested that we just go home to eat together at dinner. It was also the first time for her to meet my parents&; relatives, make some authentic northeast home cooking and treat them well. I mentioned this to my cousin in private, but she turned her back on me. My cousin said directly in front of my husband, regardless of the occasion, &”;We came all the way from Wuhan and wanted to eat something special. I saw that your mother-in-law cooked a meal in a circle of friends, and it was dark. Eat it yourself. Isn&;t there many Koreans and Russians in Harbin, and there are no authentic Korean cuisine and Russian restaurants?&”; When my husband heard my cousin&;s words about cerebral palsy, his face immediately became ugly. I quickly changed the subject before he was about to attack. And my cousin&;s son has been pulling my clothes and making noise.Try to let me take him to a &”;big meal&”;. At that time, there was a &”;Madiel Western Restaurant&”; on the central street, and my husband and I took their family of three. Outside the restaurant, there are people who sell Mattel popsicles, because this popsicle is famous in Harbin. Many foreign tourists who come to Harbin will queue up at Central Street to buy one and try it. My cousin&;s son clamored for it. When he saw one of 15 yuan&;s, he immediately shouted &”;It&;s so expensive&”; in surprise, and then said something uncomfortable and difficult to obey, such as &”;A broken milk cake is sold in 15 yuan, which is specially designed for foreigners&”; and &”;It&;s better to eat something else than 15 yuan&”;, but my cousin&;s son rolled on the ground and insisted on eating it. Cousin and brother-in-law watched the children roll and cry in front of pedestrians on the road, but they didn&;t stop, letting the children roll on the ground. When the children saw that they were unmoved, they cried and ran to my side, holding my hand and saying, &”;Young aunt buys, young aunt buys popsicles.&”; I couldn&;t bear to see the child in tears, but my cousin stood by with a look of &”;nothing to do with me&”; and said sarcastically: &”;Your aunt and uncle have money and want her to buy it for you, but your father and I have no money, and I will never buy it for you.&”; Finally, I had to pay for it and spent 60 yuan to buy four Mattel popsicles. Who knows that the cousin&;s child took a bite and spit it out and said, &”;Mom, this is not delicious at all.&”; Cousin and cousin-in-law just ate one or two and threw the popsicles directly into the trash can. They also spoke to me and said, &”;People in the northeast are really strange. There are popsicles in winter, and they are so unpalatable. They smell like milk and are not delicious for a few dollars.&”; Looking at the three popsicles that were thrown into the trash can, I was silent. Cousin and cousin-in-law panicked into the western restaurant for dinner. After our party sat down in the restaurant. After they ordered, they started with their mobile phones. After they finished filming, I patted my husband on the shoulder and said, &”;Come on, let&;s go home.&”; After that, I stood up with a belly and turned away with my bag. My cousin and brother-in-law watched me leave with my bag without saying a word, and hurried after me. My cousin took my hand and asked me what was wrong. I coldly shook off her hand and said, &”;In the next few days, we won&;t go shopping with you. Your family can play as much as they like.&”; When I get home next time, I will give you all the receipts for all the expenses in these two days and tell you all the expenses, including the three popsicles that you just discarded! &”; &”;What do you mean? Your family came all the way to see you. Is this how you treat us? &”; After listening to my words, my cousin shouted at me in the street. My husband held me and motioned me not to get angry. I took a deep breath and said to them, &”;Do you take me as a family member? Although I&;m not good at math, neither am I. Have you and your wife spent a penny from accommodation to eating, drinking and having fun these days? Have you ever respected us? I came to Harbin without saying a word, and told me I was coming to play the moment I got on the plane. Is there anyone like you? For the sake of elder sister-in-law, I won&;t dispute with you. after allIt&;s not easy to come all the way, but these days, look at your family&;s behavior. Do you treat me as a relative? It doesn&;t matter if the hotel wants to stay in the best and eat the most expensive, but you pay for it. I have spent nearly 8000 yuan in these three days. What frightens me is not these thousands of dollars, but that you treat us like a joke from beginning to end. Are you here to travel, or are you here to&; empty gloves and white wolves&; for free? In winter, I&;m pregnant for six months, so I can&;t move easily. It&;s a day to go shopping. Do you treat me like a pregnant woman? Did you ask me, did you care about me? I&;m really tired these days, physically and mentally! I can see who you really are! For the next few days, you can play as you like, and I won&;t be with you! &”;After these words, in the central street of minus 28 degrees, I took my husband and left my cousin&;s family directly. When I got home, I took all the photos of the receipt to her, including the hotel money of 2000 yuan that night. I told her that if she didn&;t give it, I would go directly to my elder sister-in-law and ask for the money without mercy. The next day, my cousin transferred me 10 thousand yuan. After I received the money, I blacked out all of her and her cousin&;s. Since then, my cousin and I have completely broken up, from relatives to enemies, and my elder sister-in-law has complained to my mother for a long time because of this, saying that after I got married, I became inhuman and weak. I don&;t want to waste my breath defending. Some people have some things, and only after they have experienced them can they know whether they are people or ghosts. 1. Be sure to make a good travel plan and discuss the issue of post-expenses before traveling. Some relatives always like to push their luck with this &”;blood relationship&”;. But there is a good saying: brothers settle accounts clearly. Some money still needs to be accounted for clearly, and you can&;t be confused as a &”;big head.&”; It is best for each family to take out a part of the money first, and one person is responsible for coordinating all the expenses, and write down all the expenses along the way, and finally divide them equally between the two families. 2. Before traveling, read more travel guides and raiders, and make a good road map to avoid affecting your mood because of some trivial differences in eating, drinking and playing during the trip. 3. It is best for traveling companions to find like-minded people and get to know each other&;s appearance and quality. Traveling is to decompress and relax, not to find discomfort and abuse for themselves. The best travel companion is your other half. If you really don&;t want to travel with others, traveling alone is also a good choice. 4, be a little conscious, you can&;t take all the efforts of others for granted because of a layer of kinship. In this world, no one has the obligation to help you pay the bill exc《平凡的世界》 that is quite right: kinship is often the most vulgar. Try to get rid of each other and roll your eyes if you don&;t get rid of it. Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives. Life will also tell you that relatives are often not as sincere as friends. If you want your relatives to continue to do it, then don&;t travel with them. Even if they are particularly harmonious during the trip, they will still be after the trip.You will find that all kinds of small things make the relationship worse than before. If you want to travel, go with your family (parents, lovers) and enjoy the trip. Don&;t be with those relatives who love to take advantage of small things, so as not to add to your troubles.