Hello, I&;m Peng Huayong, a psychological counselor, sharing family education and psychology. I&;m glad to answer this question. At present, many parents in the whole society are very anxious, and anxiety has become a great danger to parents&; mental health. Of course, anxiety is also an important reason for parents&; family education deviation. I have always stressed that many parents have gone into a misunderstanding when studying family education. They are eager for quick success and quick solutions, but they are nervous all day. When they see this worry and look at their children with such a state of mind, they can&;t talk about educating their children well. As long as the parents&; state of mind is anxious and worried, then no matter how good the method is, she can&;t use it! Moreover, I have always stressed that worry is, and belief is power. Many children are tired of learning, rebellious and depressed, which is caused by parents&; excessive worry about their children. After worrying for so many years, they finally worry about their children as problem of juvenile! Therefore, it is very important for parents to adjust their mentality, which determines the future trend of children! So how do you adjust your mentality? When many parents face their children, they will be anxious unconsciously. What should we do? First, parents should let go of their high expectations for their children. Letting go is achievement, but no expectation is the best expectation. Why do you say that? Because if parents always have high expectations in their hearts, it is like standing on tiptoe, straightening their necks, and looking directly at their children&;s scores. Every time they take an exam, they will affect their parents&; mentality, and they will be surprised at first sight! And why is letting go an achievement? Because of letting go of high expectations, parents can really learn to let go, learn to let go, and give their children . Only when they are free can they be conscious! If parents have high expectations, they will easily worry. When they are worried, they will be anxious and fearful. When they are afraid, they will control, demand and supervise. When they control and supervise, their children will lose their inner motivation and will inevitably rebel. So, all kinds of problems are coming? Second, parents should be aware of themselves and distinguish boundaries. What is a child&;s business, such as eating, reading, sleeping, health, and the future is a child&;s own business. It is necessary to distinguish the boundaries, let the children face it, and let the children bear it. Even if they face it temporarily, they will have problems and make mistakes, but how can they grow up without trying or making mistakes? Trying to make mistakes is a ladder for children&;s growth and progress! And once parents take their children&;s affairs as their own affairs, take on their own responsibilities and worry about their children, then the problem is children. Even if you nag and teach again, the child will never face the commitment, and the child will not worry at all, so that he will be indifferent when you enter the hospital! Third, respect parents first, then love your partner, and then love your children. This is the order of the family. Don&;t reverse this order. First, do your best to be filial to both parents, so that the elderly can feel happy physically and mentally and feel respected and valued. The second is to get along well with husband and wife and love each other, and the second is to love children. In many families, the elderly are neglected, and the husband and wife are indifferent, and all of them jump into the fire pit of serving their children wholeheartedly. As everyone knows, can children afford this blessing, so everyone takes him as the center and considers taking care of him, so that such children can enjoy the blessing early., then grow up, can you not suffer, can you not suffer? In fact, it is the best love for children for parents to follow the family order. To do anything, we must conform to the Tao, that is, to conform to the law. This is the law of family order, and if we violate it, there will be problems. Fourth, reciting classics every day has many benefits, which can calm down, refresh oneself and enhance one&;s energy. The older the writing, the more powerful it is. So, for example, Confucian 《论语》 《大学》 《中庸》 《孝经》 《规》, Taoist 《清净经》《道德经》《庄子》《阴符经》, etc. Buddhist 《心经》 《金刚经》 《坛经》 《地藏菩萨本愿经》 《药师菩萨本愿经》, etc. These classics, even if you read a little every day, will be very helpful to people&;s mentality, mental state and energy atmosphere! It&;s just that many people won&;t insist on doing it! Fifth, practice the traditional kung fu of meditation every day. Chinese traditional cultur《八段锦》《五禽戏》《太极》《莲花生动功》, etc., these health-preserving functions are not only to strengthen the body, but also to enhance the vitality, make people more energetic, and make their hearts quieter! For example, myself, I often practic《莲花生动功》. After less than half a year, my body is much more energetic. After one year, I feel relaxed when walking, and my whole body is very energetic. People&;s energy is improved, and their mentality is naturally easy to be peaceful and quiet. Tradition is a treasure, but many people don&;t know it yet, so we need to carry it forward! Sixth, meditation meditation, introspection. The reason why people have a lot of troubles and pains is actually because they have too many distractions, and meditation is a good awareness, awareness of their own thoughts, their own hearts, and their minds, so that they can adjust their mentality well! Seventh, enrich your life. Many parents are full-time mothers, so it is easy to live for their children. If parents want to love their children, they should love themselves first. Therefore, parents need to enrich their lives, have a circle of friends, and participate in more activities to make themselves physically and mentally happy. This is also an example for children. It should be noted that these sharing methods are very valuable, but many parents don&;t necessarily understand the value, so many people just look at it, so the help is limited; If you really understand the value, you will find that the value shared in this section, Mrs., if you understand it, will take action, even more than you taking many tens of thousands of courses outside! Because these are all proved to be very effective by my consulting practice! In a word, mentality is very important for parents. Adjust your mentality before learning methods. Worry is, phase.Faith is power. If you have a good attitude, you will feel good, feel good, get closer to your goal, and attract beautiful things! I am teacher Peng Huayong, a psychological counselor, sharing family education and psychology, and focusing on consulting and solving educational problems and psychological problems.